Defining the problem: Coming to the Point

Recently, before I started this blog, I was watching an episode of the television series Farscape called Exodus. When Zhaan said she felt “like we’re imprisoned in this room with the ship just out of reach. I was within my own mind but I couldn’t reach past and feel what I wanted,” I paused the show and said to my husband that that is my reality.

It must be a reality that someone else is familiar with or it couldn’t have been written into the script.

Now the hard part for me is communicating in a way that others can understand the point I am trying to make, as in this blog entry with this opening. Why is this hard for me to do? I cannot say.

I can come in close proximity to the substance of what I want to say, but I cannot say it. Saying it is unreachable for me today.

This reality is true is spite of the fact that I have so much capacity that I use effectively day in and day out.

What I often find myself doing rather than coming to the point and addressing the issue, whatever it happens to be, is speaking in metaphors. For example, as I was composing this post, I tried to find a way to fit in a thought about how mathematics (specifically finance) is a language which I don’t really understand, yet. Now, this metaphor made perfect sense to me, but when I mentioned it to my husband, Bear. He got that vacant, blank expression on his face — that told me he had absolutely no idea what I was talking about.

That is part of the issue – I sometimes can only recognize that I’m trying to make a point. I often try to find a  metaphor. The metaphor can be too obscure for other people to follow.